By askMamu.com staff

The word love is a fanatical and crazy word. It simply means that you love someone or you care for them. When someone says that they love you, they might mostly be telling you a big lie. What they actually mean is they will be good and polite to you, share themselves with you until the time you do exactly the same they want you to do.

Many of us are not really matured, to understand what is being capable to love and getting loved. The pedigree of love begins with the implausible survival drives in a baby who desires its mother to provide absolute, unreserved and complete attention to it. The baby will fail to survive without that attention. So, our definition of love is based on that connection and relation with its mother. The baby tries every trick with its mother. These include tantrums, anger, acting out sickness, mood swings, emotional dramas to know if the parent cares; those who haven’t shown up those hidden feelings will use them in their adult relationships.

Quite truthfully, only few people have outgrown them, so most of us are five or six years of age. More especially when we talk about the relationship of love. Generally we draw a character of the man or woman we love. Or it can be said that we make them move to and fro around us and that too in a way that goes well with our physical and emotional needs. Just observe the number of people who suffer from depression, have breakdowns, or commit suicide. This usually happens when their partner goes with someone else, leaves them, or dies.

Then what is mature love?
It is when we understand and acknowledge the person we love and care for as a separate, unique human being who has his own needs, desires and directions in life. We love our loved ones simply because they are as and who they are because we admire and respect them, and we give them the same freedom that we give ourselves. This is known as unconditional love. It doesn’t place conditions of being loved on the other person. If we are actually grown up and mature in love, we will behave the same when our partner goes with somebody else or leaves us. Although accepting this fact is difficult, but not a heartbreak, a depression or grief.

Love between any relationships will prolong only when the people are matured enough and forgive each other for any mistakes. Problem arises only when the expectation increases. It is not at all better to expect too much from others. When you expect something from your relative and they do not get the expectation satisfied you will get disappointment and this will create a bad impression about that person in your heart. Therefore, do not expect anything from your loved ones. On the other hand, show your unconditional love, this will be of great use to maintain your relationship for life long.