Dear Mamu,

Please help me, I am in this very awkward situation that is even more complicated than a love quad-angle. Here is what happend: My sister and I go to the same university. I broke up with my girlfriend about six months prior to attending university. Just for the record, she broke up with because I did not exactly give her what she desired in terms of sexual needs. I am very liberal person but when it comes to such things as that, I make things clear that it is one thing I preserve for the future .. just not ready yet.

One day in the university, I bumped to my ex in the cafeteria so we had a small conversation, what was more shocking then seeing her is that she is in the same University. Okay, that goes, we move on. The following week I bump to her again in the cafeteria around the same time after my class. It seemed to me that as if she was almost expecting to see me there. I couldn’t refuse but to sit on the table and have lunch with her. About five minutes late later my sister just came from the back and tapped my should which totally freaked me out, here I am sitting with my ex and as uncomftable as I totally did not expect that! She came and sit next to mee with her lunch, I was almost done with mine really at this point I was just thinking of getting out of there. I made a quick intro and said this was my friend and my sister, at the same time my sister best friend came and sat on the other side of her, not to be dis-respectable or anything, I kept my eyes low and did not look at her. My sister did introduce her but I did not remember her name nor did I see her face at all but just quitely said “Hello!”.

That day was passed by, in one of my class I noticed this really beautiful desi girl, sure enough I have not noticed her prior to this but boy was I glad to see her or what! That same day we talked and next thing I remember is that we were friends.

Meanwhile, that day when I left the lunch table, my ex became friend with my sister bestfriend. Weird as it seems, it happend, and here I am now totally in love with this girl from my class.

Toward the end of the semester, I was having lunch with my new girlfriend, yup.. we were officially dating now…  and absolutely unexpectadely my ex showed up there with her lunch and came toward us. I was very afraid to even introduce her to my girlfriend and was really freaking out. As soon as she aproached the table my girlfriend actually got up and gave her a hug and introduced me to her (my ex). Now I am asking myself… what the heck is going on here.

Now here is the problem, I am dating my sister’s bestfriend who is friend with my ex and my sister does not know about it .. neither does my ex. My ex still have a crush on me and wants to get back with me and calls me often here and there asking if we can talk and hangout.. etc.

Now, how do I tell my ex that I am dating this girl? Dating her friend basically,  how do I introduce my girlfriend to my sister who is really her best friend that neither one of us knew before and she still does not know of… My girlfriend and I have kept our relationship under the table as neither one of us was ready to go official and I think the time has come.

I really love this girl and do see a future with her. We have so much in common. I have never told my girlfriend about my ex because it never came in the conversation. Mamu, what do I do? Please help.

Sincerely,
Quad-Troubler!

Dear Quad-Troubler,

Mamu is here now, so relax! In the realm of the reality, I have never ever met anyone or know of anyone who have had such issue as your self. I have discussed this with the rest of the Mamu’s here and what I will tell you may make things a bit spicy at first but if things are meant to be for good, then let it be!

You need to tell the ex of your about your girlfriend, let it be known to her that you have moved on. It does not matter the fact that your girlfriend and your ex literally became friends around the same time frame as you were friend with her and dating her after. Your girlfriend will be very jealous and upset as well as your ex, they will both break their friendship. Your sister is not the problem, even in reality guys often date their sister’s friend without or even with the knowledge of knowing so. Seems weird when they breakup but it happens. So that will take care of most of the problem, now about your relationship with your girlfriend, it will be fired up and hurt like hell. You too will fight but keep your calm and try explaining to her that everything happend so fast and it just happend without you even realising that it happend. At all times be honest and tell her the truth. If indeed she loves you as much as you do or you think she does, she will understand and accept you and move on with you. If not, then wake up and smell the chai, move on buddy! Life is hard, things happens, don’t just give up yet. You have many more chances of doing this right. Learn from your experience and do not forget the lesson life teaches you.

Yours,
The Mamu Himself!